Please Forgive Me

How mean can a man be to his wife/partner and the mother of his kids? How many times can a woman forgive a man who has broken her (not only her heart) in so many ways? These and more are the questions I usually ask myself when I hear or read some related stories like what I have here. The story was published in a local newspaper and originally written in German. After reading it, I decided to translate it to English for my readers. This is of course, a real story:

Dear Elisabeth, dear Eva and Max,

Dear Readers, at this point in my life I want to stand up and admit to the world that I am blithering idiot.

I am really such a retard and I am carrying such a great load of guilt on my shoulders. I have done the worst thing a human being can do, I have destroyed a family. I have lost the most valuable thing in a man’s life - -his wife and family.

My wife had all the right reasons to leave me because I have destroyed all the love she had for me. I did not betray her or have affairs with other women, what I did was even worse. I destroyed her heart and all her dreams. I was never able to give her what a wonderful woman like she  deserves to have, love, attention, understanding, harmony and lot’s more. I was never a friend or gave her a shoulder to lean on. I never gave her strength or cared for her well being.

All of those things she had given to me all along, only that I did not recognize it nor appreciate it. It’s only now that I realize what I have done and believe me, dear Readers, I am not proud of what I did, not at all. Dear Readers, if you see Elisabeth (Lilo) please give her a gentle hand shake and a warm smile and believe me, she deserves it. I am begging you, if she knocks open the door for her and if she falls down, help her to get up again. Do all the things that I failed to do for her and you will see the most wonderful person she really is.

And I would like to give all of you men out there some advice, do not make the mistakes I have made. Fight for your wife and for her love every day, because she is the most valuable thing in your life or you will carry a big load of guilt as well.

I hope that one day my wife will be able to forgive me and I will do everything in my power to change and not be that terrible person I was all along.

I want to say thank you to my sister in law and brother in law for taking my wife in when she needed someone to take care of her.

I apologize to all the people I have hurt and done wrong too.

My only hope is to be there for Elisabeth one day and be a friend to her.

Let this be a lesson learned to all of you Readers as well and do not follow  my foot steps because the result is a great burden and lot’s of pains (which I deserve). 

I know that we are not supposed to judge, but what do you think of such man/men and what would you do if you were  Elizabeth.

The Sand and The Stone (Wordful Wednesday)

Sand and Stone

TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING
THROUGH THE DESERT.
DURING SOME POINT OF THE
JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
IN THE FACE.
THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
SAYING ANYTHING,
WROTE IN THE SAND:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
WHERE THEY DECIDED
TO TAKE A BATH

THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
MIRE ! AND STARTED DROWNING,
BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.
AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
THE NEAR DROWNING,
HE WROTE ON A STONE:

"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SAVED MY LIFE ".

THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
ASKED HIM, "AFTER I HURT YOU,
YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,
YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?"

THE FRIEND REPLIED
"WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.
BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES
SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
WHERE NO WIND
CAN EVER ERASE IT."

LEARN TO WRITE
YOUR HURTS IN
THE SAND AND TO
CARVE YOUR
BENEFITS IN STONE.

THEY SAY IT TAKES A
MINUTE TO FIND A SPECIAL
PERSON, AN HOUR TO
APPRECIATE THEM, A DAY
TO LOVE THEM, BUT THEN
AN ENTIRE LIFE
TO FORGET THEM.


TAKE THE TIME TO LIVE!

DO NOT VALUE THE THINGS
YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE, BUT VALUE
WHO YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE!
AND IF I HAPPEN TO GET IT BACK,
THEN I KNOW MY PLACE IN YOUR LIFE 

 

“Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."