Changing environment, learning new language and new culture,being a wife and a mother, living far away from families and friends, I have come to share my views, thoughts, feelings, ideas on so many things that I cherish.

July 18, 2012

Please Forgive Me

How mean can a man be to his wife/partner and the mother of his kids? How many times can a woman forgive a man who has broken her (not only her heart) in so many ways? These and more are the questions I usually ask myself when I hear or read some related stories like what I have here. The story was published in a local newspaper and originally written in German. After reading it, I decided to translate it to English for my readers. This is of course, a real story:

Dear Elisabeth, dear Eva and Max,

Dear Readers, at this point in my life I want to stand up and admit to the world that I am blithering idiot.

I am really such a retard and I am carrying such a great load of guilt on my shoulders. I have done the worst thing a human being can do, I have destroyed a family. I have lost the most valuable thing in a man’s life - -his wife and family.
My wife had all the right reasons to leave me because I have destroyed all the love she had for me. I did not betray her or have affairs with other women, what I did was even worse. I destroyed her heart and all her dreams. I was never able to give her what a wonderful woman like she  deserves to have, love, attention, understanding, harmony and lot’s more. I was never a friend or gave her a shoulder to lean on. I never gave her strength or cared for her well being.
All of those things she had given to me all along, only that I did not recognize it nor appreciate it. It’s only now that I realize what I have done and believe me, dear Readers, I am not proud of what I did, not at all. Dear Readers, if you see Elisabeth (Lilo) please give her a gentle hand shake and a warm smile and believe me, she deserves it. I am begging you, if she knocks open the door for her and if she falls down, help her to get up again. Do all the things that I failed to do for her and you will see the most wonderful person she really is.

And I would like to give all of you men out there some advice, do not make the mistakes I have made. Fight for your wife and for her love every day, because she is the most valuable thing in your life or you will carry a big load of guilt as well.

I hope that one day my wife will be able to forgive me and I will do everything in my power to change and not be that terrible person I was all along.

I want to say thank you to my sister in law and brother in law for taking my wife in when she needed someone to take care of her.
I apologize to all the people I have hurt and done wrong too.
My only hope is to be there for Elisabeth one day and be a friend to her.

Let this be a lesson learned to all of you Readers as well and do not follow  my foot steps because the result is a great burden and lot’s of pains (which I deserve). 

I know that we are not supposed to judge, but what do you think of such man/men and what would you do if you were  Elizabeth.


May said...

A second chance should be given to him if he is truly a changed man. But what would you do if you were Elizabeth. We readers will really love to hear what you have to say about this situation.

Judy Haughton-James said...

This letter seems genuine and straight from the heart. I guess Elizabeth would have to take a lot of things into consideration before going back.

Andrew Magalhães M. Santiago said...

Very interesting blog. I will return often to visit him.

See ya!


RaeBeth said...

It's hard to say if he deserves a second chance. By the note, it seems as if he's a changed man. But some times looks can be different than what the heart feels. I don't think any man who has hurt his wife and kids deserves a second chance. That just gives the chance for him to hurt them all over again. If I were Elizabeth, I wouldn't bother. There are other great men out there who will love her for who she is as well as love her children. No man is worth the tears, pain, and heart ache. I say this coming from a family where the boyfriend beat on my Mom. I've lived it. I've seen it. I hate it. Those are my thoughts.

Nekky said...

Thanks Raebeth for your honest opinion. Somebody who has experienced such situation will definitely see it this way.

Mom of A and a said...

It's difficult to tell because there are so many unanswered questions. First of all, what exactly did he do? Did he just completely ignore her, as he claims, or was it something else. We just have his side of the story. Second, why is he publishing this in a newspaper - for publicity or because he can be sure that she will see it?

Nekky said...

I think the so called Elizabeth is no where to be found and he might be lucky if she or somebody that knows her reads it in a newspaper.

Camille Griffiths said...

Well at least it seems like he has realized his faults and is willing to change... That's more than most men ever do.

Carole said...

sounds too good to be true to me. I have linked in a post about some rhubarb and banana jam I just made to Claire Justine. Have a super week.

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