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June 14, 2011

How to Help Children to Develop Good Manners


In our society today, the issue of good manners cannot be overemphasised. It's a value that has eluded so many adults and children. Sad to say that this virtue is slightly and steadily slipping away. Today, Parents and Caregivers are busy in pursuit of others things that interest them most than properly raising their kids. Good mannerism needs to be revisited by most adults but since children are the future and the leaders of tomorrow, I'm more concerned about them. 

Good manners are essential for every child's self confidence and success in life. The early years (formative stage) of a child's life is the proper time to start teaching him about the world and the importance of his relationship to the people around him.

They have to be taught the importance of good behaviour.
Manners are about:
° How to speak nicely to others
° How to be generous.
° Helping out in daily tasks.
° Caring for other people and caring for the environment.
° How to respect people and their feelings
° Showing kindness
° Sharing
° Politeness ( learning to say: please, thank you, sorry, excuse me, etc).

Don't forget that the family is where it all starts. Setting a good example is the best way to make these virtues stick with them. Develop a warm and caring relationship with your children, respond to their clues and cues, respect the child, do not criticize him/her in public for nothing, it can be demeaning.
Respect others, children may end up treating others the way they see your treat those in your life/around you.

All these do not happen all of a sudden. It happens over a period of time but you have to remind the child constantly about the manners. Be patience because at times, things may not work out the way you want them to but don't give up. As a parent, remember that you are their number one role model. To play your role as a good model, you must not forget to take very good care of yourself, that's when you function best.
Cheers. 

Always Nekky.

33 comments:

May said...

Good manners matters a lot..but is so unfortunate that some parents lack it so i wonder how the will end up teaching their kids.If i must say i have encountered some before and i was shocked on what i saw.I believe is never to late to make a change if you belong to the group that lack simple manners.

Lolo said...

Right on! I feel they´re sooooo important and soooooo neglected! Like you say we should start with us, then our kids and believe me it´s not easy. I find miyself reating over and over again the same things and guess it´s why some parents decide not to do anything about it! It´s WAY EASIER not doing it...
In the meantime I love it that there´s someone out there that feels like I do!!!
Hope you have a great week, see you around your friend from VoiceBoks
Lolo

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Six said...

Beautifully written post! I hope and pray that my kids will always have good manners . . . it seems like these days being polite is a lost art.
I found you on Voice Boks and I am your newest follower! I would love to have you come visit our blog and follow back if you would like to!
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Spilled Milkshake said...

I really believe that children learn best by example and the best way to teach manners is to model them. I am not perfect, but I do try and my kids are polite and thoughtful most of the time. Especially compared to some of their friends who visit our house!

Visiting from voiceBoks!

Monica said...

following you from voiceboks.. nowadays, good manners are hard to find..it needs to be constant reminder with my kids.

Samantha said...

Good manners are hard to come across these days.

Thanks for stopping by Nifty Mom. Gladly following back!

Yankee Texan Mom said...

I agree with you that some folks have forgotten the basics and it is starting to show across our society. Thankfully my husband and I agree on the importance of raising polite and considerate children. I found you through VoiceBoks and am now a follower!
Yankee Texan Mom

Nekky said...

It's so good to know that many mothers out they are positive about this topic. I'm so grateful for your beautiful comments.

Mommy LaDy Club said...

I couldn't agree more. Good manners are fading away with our kids and it's up to us, families and parents, to teach them. Thanks for the good reminder!

New follower!
Betina
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April said...

Much like some of the other posters - I agree that having kids learn by example is the most important. If it's "don't do as I do, do as I say", it'll never happen. Good post! Visiting from VoiceBoks.

April

Not Your Ordinary Agent said...

Manners are so important. Wonderful post Nekky. We are firm believers in manners at our home. It surprises people when our kids say their thank yous and pleases and it makes me smile. http://homesandbabies.blogspot.com

Ro @ MommyMindSpa.com said...

Excellent advice!! Thanks for posting!
Visiting from Voiceboks!
xoxoxo
Ro :)
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lisaannepollard said...

Stopping by from VB!

What a great post! I make sure to emphasize manners with my daughter, but I have a niece and nephew that are out of control. They demand things and often get them. They don't know the meaning of please or thank you. Plus, some of the things that say to their parents is just plain unacceptable. I think it is so important for parents to make sure they instill good manners in their kids right from the start or they will turn out like my niece and nephew.

Lisa

Rachel Joy said...

I miss the good ol' days when people say "mam" and "sir" and men tipping their hats to you while while women would curtsy...Now we have men flipping their fingers and women flashing people!

lisaannepollard said...

I agree manners are so important! I try to stress them with my daughter all the time!!!! Too many kids now-a-days don't have manners and don't know how to be respectful.

Lisa

P.S. Stopping by from VB!

Chef in Training said...

great blog! Visiting from VoiceBoks! Your newest follower! Would love it if you would check out my blog and follow too! Thanks!
-Nikki
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Army of Moms said...

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!! You cannot know how much this needed to be said. I always tell my kids they need to be polite. That being nice is better than being smart. ( They are both) but I am AMAZED by the other parents and kids. My mom would have said they were raised by wolves.LOL
Have an awesome weekend!

Lisa Ladrido said...

We have to be the example for sure! Great post! Following you from VoiceBoks!~Lisa
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Kimberley said...

Hi! Following you from the Saturday hop! Please come visit and follow me back at http://healthykidshappykids.blogspot.com

Have a lovely weekend!

SavingsIsFree.com said...

Very nice post. New follower from the hop. Thank you.

amy said...

following you from voiceboks... I totally agree! Some of my relatives think i'm crazy for writing thank you notes with my children but if i don't teach them to do so, who will?

This Lil Piglet said...

Fabulous post; great job! The truth is that manners aren't as important these days, you can even tell with elders. What is wrong with a please and thank you now and then?! I raise my kids to have good manners, what they do when they are away from me I can only hope they use the manners I have taught them.

Following you from Saturday Stalk; I hope you pop by for a follow. :)

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mrsmomx6 said...

Excellent! What ever happened to the good ole day's when ladies were modest and men send excuse me? Now the ladies can be found on Girls gone Wild and the men in the gym bathroom taking a picture with a towel around their waist. *Sigh* I will never stop making my kids hold their fork correctly and say please and thank you :)
Sharon from voiceBoks
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Nikki said...

I think simple politeness makes the world a much better place. It's very easy to be polite, but so often people just seem to skip it. My son can be a little hooligan at time, but he always says please and thank you!

Visiting from VB! I'm also a new follower.

Laura said...

I think one problem with trying to teach manners is that a lot of adults are so rude & have no manners & their kids think that behavior is okay and copy it. My girls are 15 & 21 & I did teach them manners. When they were little, I would answer them "yes mame, no mame" to demonstrate manners. It worked!

Stopping by from VoiceBoks!

klcmaher said...

Stopping by from the Saturday Stalk Remix Hop. I already follow, but I wanted to stop in and say hello. Love this post!

Shifan said...

Excellent advice.Beautifully.I have link you.

Nekky said...

The whole issues lies on us - the parents. A teenager once told me that she was always rude to the janitors because her mother was also rude to them. This shows us the impact our behaviours can have on our children.

Sara said...

Absolutely fabulous post. As a teacher I can tell you that manners are becoming a thing of the past. It does indeed start at home.

SJ @ Homemaker On A Dime said...

Very timely post! Thank you. Btw, I'm admiring all your informative posts here. Can you please them at the Creative Bloggers' Party & Hop? Hope to see you there at the party :)

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Yetsky said...

True! And I agree with you. Parents should lead their kids on the right path, after all, kids are the parents' reflection. I'm stopping by from voiceboks.

Peace Love & Poop said...

This is a great post! I think it is very important to teach your children manors!

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Mandi said...

So true! I feel like I'm on continuous repeat with my kids about their manners. Dinnertime seems to be the worst at our house. "Elbows off the table. Eat over your plate. Use your fork! Use your pleases, please." When my 3yo excused himself and cleared his own plate to the counter without being asked, I felt like I won the SuperBowl! :D

Visiting from voiceBoks!

M.

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