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January 16, 2012

Strategies to Help Children Develop Good Character

After reading  Dr. Helen LeGette’s book, Parents, Kids, & Character, which is a very nice book for every parent, here are  
12 Strategies I believe will help Children Develop Good Character:

1. Model good character in the home. It is critically important that those who are attempting to influence children’s character in positive ways “walk the talk.”

2. Be clear about your values. Tell your children where you stand on important issues. If we want children to internalize the virtues that we value, we need to teach them what we believe and why.

3. Show respect for your spouse, your children, and other family members. Parents who honor each other, who share family responsibilities, and who resolve their differences in peaceful ways communicate a powerful message about respect.

4. Model and teach your children good manners. Whether the issue is courtesy or other simple social graces, it is in the home that true thoughtfulness for others has its roots.

5. Have family meals together without television as often as possible. Mealtime is an excellent time for parents to talk with and listen to their children and to strengthen family ties.

6. Plan family activities. Involve your children in the planning. Family activities that seem quite ordinary at the moment are often viewed in retrospect as memorable bits of family history.

7. Model appropriate behavior regarding alcohol and drugs. Nowhere is the parents’ personal example more critical than in the area of alcohol and drug use.

8. Plan family service projects or civic activities. At the heart of good character is a sense of caring and concern for others.

9. Read to your children and keep good literature in the home. Great teachers have always used stories to teach, motivate, and inspire.

10. Help your children develop an appreciation for non-material rewards. In today’s consumerist culture, youth could easily come to believe that image—wearing the “right” clothes, driving the “right” car, etc.—represents the path to success and happiness.

11. Assign home responsibilities to all family members. Even though it is often easier to clear the table, take out the trash, or load the dishwasher ourselves than to wait for a child to do it.

12. Set clear expectations for your children and hold them accountable for their actions. Defining reasonable limits and enforcing them appropriately provides children with a sense of security.


Kenya G. Johnson said...

Good Morning Nekky - I'm already a once upon a time ago follower ;-) Today I'm stopping by from WBC (lovin' that place)! These are good strategies. I always feel honored when I am told me son has good manners. Then there's the burping which is totally my fault because he got it from ME! Geez.

Glam Squad said...

I could not agree more. Very good post indeed Nekky, From WBC..

Beauty and the Green said...

Great post as always, I couldn't agree more. We need to be our children's example and practice ourselves what we preach. Contrary to popular belief, kid's learn by example and not by nagging or the "do what I say and not what I do" attitude.

Melissah from Scrapbook said...

Great words of wisdom - I try to practice all of that at home.
I just signed up as your latest follower - it would be great if we could follow each other!

Anupama said...

Hi,good article and good to know we are doing the right things with our kids!Thanks for your comment on my blog!

Mommy LaDy Club said...

You know, it's nice to read through this, and be able to say, I did all of those things with my step-daughters with my husband along side, and it really did pay off! They are all doing well as adults:)

Shannon's Tales of Motherhood said...

Great tips! I'm really big on eating at the dinner table together with no t.v.

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